Realistic

Recently i realised that people around me think that i m very 現實. M i really that 現實 i wonder. Anyway today i came out with a reason to defend myself... hahahha...

Actually i really kind of don't know wat xian shi means. Does it mean that i m realistic? does it mean that i m materialistic? or does it just mean that i m practical? we shall see about that.

ok most people say i m xian shi when they hear my view about love. Honestly, i hate to say this but i kind of don't believe in love. as in i don't believe in "love" in the way people always 把愛輕易的放在嘴邊. like they think that love is so simple that love is so easy.to me love is something very sacred very pure, very hard to explain. For example, i don't think people marry truly for love, and people shouldn't only marry solely for love. As in when people get married there is other factors to consider to like maybe the woman is pregnant. they want to start a family together. marriage isn't all about love, it is also about responsibility isn't it? i mean if a marriage is only about love, then how come there is a divorce. i hate it when people keep talking about love in this way, when they say they want to do something for love, because i always think that there is a hidden agenda behind it. it couldn't be only and solely for love could it? I m not trying to say that love is not important it a marriage, because without love there wouldn't even be a marriage, but love is not the only factor to a marriage. so i really hate it when people talk about love so likely. cos i think it is stupid, and they will most likely fail, cos if there is only love it won't work. So m i very materialistic or realistic to think that way? I don't think i m being realistic it thinking this way cos it is a fact.

Another example. recently someone told me she will only have kids because of love. honestly, it sounds a bit stupid to me once again. isn't it a bit naive to think that you will only have kids because of love. as in there must be other reasons y some ppl have kids. like due to accidents, want to keep the marriage together, family pressure. it is again naive to think that to have kids only because of love isn't it? of course once again without love there won't be children but well not the only factor ba.

Honestly at this age i don't believe i would fall head over heels in love with somebody. cos it is not possible. i m old liao. ahhahahha. And i really don't believe that anyone can just survive on love. I believe that the only kind of love that is pure and unconditional is a mother's love. well tat is sth i think i can promise at least. i really hate it when ppl treat love so lightly, always 把愛輕易的放在嘴邊. really hate that! unless you really can do it then say it, if not jus keep your mouth shut. love is not so easy. actions speak louder than words people who can really love, will not always talk about love, or mention love that easily. cos truly loving is really difficult. love is to think of others before yourself, seriously how many people can even do that. hate it when people jus foolishly keep giving thinking it is love. ok maybe that is wat truly love is. jus that i m unable to do that. ok maybe love isn't so difficult, it is just me. because i m a rather protective person of myself, so i would nv truly love..

Seriously, some people tell me they will truly love if they meet their ideal type. Isn't that already rather contradictory? like if that person is not your ideal type so you don't like him la? and you profuse that you can truly love somebody? don't make sense to me. I admit i might only love a person who is my ideal type because i m like they say xian shi. well at least i m being honest. People say that i m rather high maintenance. but i don't think so le.. as long as that person is sincere and i have feelings for him nothing else matters. sometimes would hear some of my frens say wa he like tat woo the girl v lousy, but it is not abt the method he used to win the girls heart it is wat he has tried to do to win it that is sincere and matters, so who cares about wat he did to woo her, as long as made the effort isn't that enough? ok this only applies to situation where the feelings are mutual. if not no matter wat he does he is jus being an idiot. I only have 2 criteria in a boyfriend le first is sincerity, next is feelings! so wat so hard about that. at least i m not materialistic and expect him to have a certain income or drive a certain car, but i do believe in 門當戶對. as in if he is not a degree holder, he must be hardworking and able to work better than me. to me 門當戶對 is not that i have a degree he must have one, they may be other stuff that he has that i lack. he has to be someone who has nearly the things that i have. so is that very hard to be fulfilled?

gosh after all this maybe it is just me with the problem. i think i tried to prove i m not xian shi, but failed to do so. i kind of proved that i m quite xian shi instead. hee.. ok i shall not try to defend myself. but honestly, when ppl say that i m xian shi, i would think they r naive. hahahha.. i always tot everyone feel the same way as me about love and stuff. well apparently not. but i don't want to be naive! don't whether it is because i m too xian shi, that's y i think they r naive. gosh.. i feel very puzzled now.. well all i can say is i think i m xian shi, but i m not materialistic. i think there is a difference to it. when those ppl who say i m xian shi, do they think i m materialistic too? is being xian shi equivalent to being materialistic? can anybody answer my question??